Everyone reacts in a different way to sexualised discrimination and every incident is different, so there are no standard approaches to solving the problem. Many of those affected are not able to react directly because the situation often leaves them speechless at first. A reaction to a situation can also be made later (if necessary, also in writing). Below you will find some possibilities that have proven to be helpful so far:
1. Listen to your feelings. If you feel uncomfortable or think that someone has exceeded your limits, you do not have to justify or be ashamed of it. A first difficulty is often to recognise that what you have experienced is in fact sexual harassment.
2. If possible, apply the "three-step model":
- speak out what just has happened,
- say what that does to you,
- demand what the counterpart should or should not do in future.
For example: "Please keep a distance, I don't want you to get that close to me" or "These looks make me uncomfortable, please stop looking at me like that" or "This question is too intimate for me, I don't want to talk about it with you and in this context".
3. It is useful to prepare a memory log for oneself, no matter where and with whom something has happened. It allows you to become clear about the situation by noting when, who, where and with what intensity the incident took place. Briefly describe what happened. Note down important statements and other essential actions and sequences of actions as precisely as possible and in chronological order. How did the situation end? Are there any witnesses? If so, ask for their contact details and ask them to write their own memory log.
4. Talk to someone close to you or seek initial counselling (see above). In an initial counselling session, the conversation remains confidential and can also take place anonymously via a trusted intermediary. Further steps will not be taken without consultation or against your will.